Happy Wedding Advice Wednesday! This week’s post is for all our PANDEMIC BRIDES! I am so sorry you guys have to plan a wedding during this super weird and uncertain time! I want to give you some of our best advice as a wedding vendor that might help you out!
You’re not canceling your wedding…
I’ve had multiple wedding clients reach out to me to “cancel” their wedding who were actually just postponing their wedding. YOU ARE STILL GOING TO GET MARRIED EVENTUALLY! Your wedding vendors WANT to help you and will hopefully be accommodating in this situation. It sucks for everyone, but don’t let it ruin your day! That leads me to #2…
Like I said, your wedding is still going to happen and your vendors want to help you. Simply ask them if they would be willing to reschedule, or change coverage time amounts. I can almost guarantee you that 99% of vendors will say yes. As a wedding photographer, I am bending over backwards for my sweet clients. Austin literally got certified as an officiant so you guys could “elope” with less than 10 people while we film + photograph it and then say the words that officially marry you at the end while you have the coolest DIY elopement with your friends and family. We even told people that when they did have their wedding, we’d apply the money they used for their elopement towards their actual wedding! You just have to ask questions because I’m positive all your vendors are brainstorming ideas of how they can help you.
If your wedding is July or further out, don’t stress. I’m not an epidemiologist so I’m not positive when the pandemic will end. BUT if your wedding is late summer or after, the pandemic probably won’t affect you and you should move forward like normal.
Where your attenttion goes, your energy flows
This last piece of advice is something that I’ve paid a lot of money to learn (seriously guys, therapy isn’t cheap.. you are getting straight GOLD here!)
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL! Did you know that one of the main things that help when you are feeling anxiety is to limit the amount of unknowns going on in your life? It’s hard to do right now, but you can do it. Give energy to what you know and can control and then don’t stress about what you can’t. Even if you were getting married without a pandemic, you’d still have things go wrong on your wedding day. (People who say their wedding was absolutely perfect are liars hahah)
Can’t have all your friends at your wedding? Cool. Have them there on zoom and let them know of the sick after party that’s going to happen when the world isn’t ending. ORRR better yet, hire the best videographer + photographer from Jones Co Creative (shameless plug hehe and they’ll make your friends and family feel like they were there in person!) Your dress isn’t going to have the alterations done in time? Sweet, wear your moms old dress, or order a cute lace dress from a boutique or amazon and then take bridals later on in the year with your actual wedding dress!
BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU CAN CONTROL…. Is that you still love your fiancé. And you’re still going to marry them. When you marry them doesn’t matter if the love is true. You could get married in a potato sack in the middle of a field and I guarantee you won’t even care once you are actually standing there together, saying “I do.”
Just know that NO ONE is judging you on how you guys choose to celebrate your day. This is a weird time so sometimes you have to do weird stuff, but I promise you you’ll have the best memories some day! WE LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH!
Sarah + Austin Jones